Before I became a mom, I loved the thought of having a little someone to dress up. And, obviously, my little someone would be so enthralled by my excellent taste, they would totally succumb and walk around looking pristine and adorable.
Enter Katie Bella. She has a style all her own and is not about to change it. There go my hopes and dreams. My living vicariously through a petite blonde at last. But, it hasn’t taken me long to love this about her, even encourage it. Here’s why:
- It’s her, and it tells me more about what she likes and what how her tastes are developing.
- It gives her a sense of responsibility and independence.
- She is growing confident in her ability to make choices and then be responsible for them. She once wore a poofy pink dress and got lots of comments about it being cute and girly. The next week, we had to donate it. She didn’t like that image. She said she felt like a giant cupcake that had exploded (her exact words, actually). This was a very proud moment for me. I’ve never been partial to pink poofy explosions myself.
- I feel like it is a balanced approach to her being conscious of how she looks. She chooses stuff she likes and thinks she looks ok in (engendering self respect), but she doesn’t depend on others to ensure that she looks ‘cool’, just in case she’s missed a new trend. She doesn’t care about that.
- I have learnt that she is actually pretty responsible. She makes sure that she is warm and comfortable. I don’t even manage this 100% of the time.
- It saves us time. We can ask her to get ready (I do brief her a little – where we’re going, what we’re going to be doing there, what is definitely not appropriate), and she does.
She is a superstar, and is thriving with this freedom.